Damn the Dichotomy

faux leather jacket: Black Rivet ::  gold bodycon skirt: Forever 21:: asymmetrical top: thrifted:: 
heels: Nine West, thrifted

I occasionally get emails from readers who tell me that I wear "skinny girl clothing" pretty well. In my head, "skinny girl clothing" is pretty much equivalent to bralette tops, halter tops, or low-dipping necklines, neither of which I wear because, well, I'm not "skinny," if you catch my drift. 

All kidding aside, I take those emails as compliments, but they do make me think about how we, as a society, have managed to categorize clothing based on body images. Are there really such things as clothing styles exclusively for "skinny" or, alternately, "fat" people? Whatever happened to plain old style?  The dichotomy of fat vs skinny bothers me more than anything. It dictates that you can only be one or the other, when we all know that we're all different shades of grey. Damn the dichotomy!

While I've never been on the "skinny" side, as dictated by the scale, the measuring tape, the number on the size tag (what shade of grey is that?), I don't let any of those discourage me from wearing whatever I want to put on my body. Take for instance this asymmetrical top I thrifted, never worn and complete with tags. The shopkeeper told me that scads of "skinny" women have tried this top and decided against it because it was "too complex" to wear. As soon as I slipped the top on, I knew it was going home with me. And the shopkeeper agreed. I say: Wear what makes you look good.  Wear what makes you happy. Wear it because you can. 


  1. Very well said Laura. I say wear what makes you feel good no matter what your size. I love this outfit, especially the skirt!

  2. Too right, well said!! It shouldn't matter what size you are, wear what makes you feel grand and that's all that matters! People think because I'm slender I should wear short skirts and skimpy clothing, but that's not me, no matter what size I am. You have to wear what says 'you' to yourself because only your opinion matters. I think you look fantastic as always! Have a great day x

  3. I agree, wear what you like and forget about the skinny vs fat fashion labels. I've been much larger, and much smaller than my current weight, and each version of myself always wore exactly what she wanted. You look wonderful, and I do love that top!

    What Lola Wants

  4. I'm with you - damn the dichotomy. And I think this may be one of my favourite outfits on you - you look awesome!

    Courtney ~ http://sartorialsidelines.com

  5. Very well said! I think you always look good in whatever you wear - and I don't think it matters what "kind" of clothes they are!

    LOVE this skirt, it has just a little bit of shimmer and it makes it so fun!

  6. If you feel good and look good in the clothes, it shouldn't matter! LOL

  7. I did not know people called them "skinny girl clothes." I'm kind of disappointed that that term ever came up. Clothes are clothes. Geez. I agree with you, wear what makes you feel happy! :)

  8. Gosh, I never considered this before. "Skinny people" clothing...sounds so stigmatizing. But, I think you pull off a lot of clothing well! You look amazing in this outfit...and I'm loving your hair still! =D



  9. that asymmetrical top really does look complex haha and you totally rock it! i loved this post because i don't like all the categories either. if you like it, feel good in it, and have fun with it then it's totally "you" and not in any other category. It's refreshing to hear a style blogger to talk in such a way :D

    xo Marlen
    Messages on a Napkin

  10. Oh hai I like your new design!

    What exactly is skinny girl clothing... Herve Leger bandage dresses? Ha!

    Too complex? I definitely don't think so!

  11. Another awesome outfit, that shirt is so interesting!

    Sometimes I think "skinny girl clothing" in your posts just because you'll have things from places like f21 and Charlotte Russe (places that barely fit me 100 lbs ago) but not because of a certain kind of clothing. Just because you're big doesn't mean you have to wear maxi-skirts as much as just because you're thin doesn't mean you have to wear mini-skirts. Amazing clothes for everyone!

  12. great look! I love your bracelet and skirt!

  13. I couldn't agree more Laura!!! We all get so caught up in what others may think about what we are wearing and if we look "fat" or "skinny" that we forget what's important: To have fun and be happy! I like to think that dressing up is all about having fun and wearing things that make you happy, no matter what the shape or color of it is. Congratulations on such a beautifully inspiring post.

    PS: You always look amazing in all of your outfits, don't let yourself ever feel bad for what other's may think :)

  14. That's what I thought too.. what is "skinny girl clothing"?! Besides, where are the lines between skinny, non-skinny ans fat!? That is all weird, as you said, people should wear what they like :D

  15. i totally agree, it's stupid to devide people into "skinny" and "fat", which means i don't believe there is such a thing as "skinny girl clothing" or "fat girl clothing". of course some clothes look more flattering on some girls than on others but that is more about shape than size i think. just as you say, wear what makes you look good, wear what makes you happy.
    some of my friends (who are mostyl average size) consider me "too skinny" and are like "eww i can see your bones, you don't have any tits, you must eat more blabla" and i just wish everyone could just shut up about other people's bodytypes everytime i hear something like that. there's so much more important stuff to worry about, haha. xx

  16. Yes! Such binary thinking helps no one, damn the dichotomy indeed! You look fabulous as always in that outfit. That shirt is awesome, but the heels and bracelet are sooo cool!

  17. Hear, hear. You've hit on some really good points, Laura. What society dictates to us, especially in terms of body image, is beyond frustrating. You have the right attitude! And, you are completely rocking this outfit. That top and those shoes are awesome thrift finds.

  18. I wholeheartedly agree with your sentiment. Fuck the dichotomy and wear what makes you happy, and wear what makes you feel good and sexy. That is all that matters.

  19. Wear clothes that look good on your figure, no matter what it may be! There are no skinny clothes or fat clothes, only ones that fit.

    Love that top, the draping is so pretty!
    Chic on the Cheap

  20. to me it's all about confidence, and what you said...wear what makes you feel good.

    love the hair...transitioning to blue?

    Win a Pretty Blue Satchel!

  21. Sing it, sister!Not only do I love the photos in this post, I love the content. Words like these are what help create awareness and evoke change in society's warped way of thinking. Kudos to you, Laura! I love everything about this outfit, especially the sexy shoes! You look beautiful! You do! And before I go, I must share my pet peeve with you and it's the term "plus size" clothing. Why, oh why must the term plus be added? After all, it's not like clothes being worn by women who are a size zero is being deemed "minus size"! What do you think? Hugs! :)

  22. You always look fabulous, Laura. The only thing that differentiates clothing to me is weather it's straight or plus sized (numbers wise). I honestly don't even go by those, though. Measurements are my magic...it's the only reason why my closet ranges from size Medium to size XXL. It's all in how you feel & what makes you look and feel amazing - and you nail that on the head, pretty lady! xo

    1. Hahah I just realized I wrote weather and not whether. You can see where my head is!

  23. I ADORE this top! And that bracelet - I WANT. Sorry about the yelling. I'll put the candy now. Obviously the sugar is making me a little intense. You're totes right. Dress the way you want. Forget about labels. If it flatters, work it!

  24. That bracelet is DIVINE. I'm not used to seeing you in monochromatic colours but it's a super-fun change. As a bonus your hair really pops! I'm glad you wear what you WANT. Confidence and personal comfort is more important than anything else. That being said I'm going to go against the grain of the comments above and risk some backlash by suggesting that maybe the person was referring to clothes that TEND to flatter a certain body shape (though that's obviously open to interpretation). For instance, when I wear a pencil skirt, low cut blouse and wide belt, I think of that as 'hourglass girl' clothing because that's the body shape that can really pull the look off. I'm not hourglass shaped but more straight up and down. So I like to borrow some styles that probably flatter other body shapes more than mine, but it certainly doesn't mean I can't wear them! So I say keep doing what you're doing girl!


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